2022.01.21 21:28 EveryBodyFucKing123 Is it weird that I want to wait until University to get into a relationship? Friend thinks so
Just a bit of a preface: I'm writing this after I've written the whole post, and it's all kinda jumbled. So apologies in advance about formatting
Hi all. Recently turned 18 year old male here, and I have a question: Is it bad that I want to wait until university to get into another relationship? One of my friends and I were recently talking, and she told me that I should "loosen up" a little and that I should date now, because University might not be what it seems. I understand her point, but there's also my side of the story.
For context, I go to a small private school in a small rural town. There's only about 300 kids there, about 60 of these being in my year (I'm in grade 12 currently). A couple years ago, I dated one of my best friends, which happened to be both the best and worst thing that ever happened to me. The good parts were that I fell in love, got my first kiss, so on. However, there were more negatives than positives - the relationship was one sided on my end, she was never really able to hang out, and when we did do things, such as make out, it felt very emotionless and I didn't really enjoy it. Thus, we broke up, and I have been single ever since.
As an outcome of this relationship, I learnt that life really is more about being with a partner. I must admit, before I got into the relationship, I had the typical redditor solution to all of life's problems: get into a relationship. I remember some of my friends got into relationships, and they would (seemingly, of course. Turns out some of them were really depressed during their relationships) be really happy with their S.O, which in turn would make me extremely jealous. I wanted to get into a relationship SO, SO BADLY. I would constantly tell my friends "i'm SO LOnELy" and "if Only I HAD a girLFrieNd evEryTHing woULD be sO muCH BETter". Clearly, that wasn't the case.
My view on romantic relationships has since changed a bit. When I was in that relationship, it was my everything. I always wanted to talk to her, text her, be with her, for pretty much every single second of every single day. Now, I realize that relationships are just a bit of your life - you have other things to work on, whether it be education, career, or projects. Of course, relationships are still important, and I think pretty much everyone (or at least the majority of people) likes to have someone by their side for life. I feel like this is the right way to view things, but then again, I'm still a teenager in high school - in reality I have no clue what I'm talking about.
I should probably mention that it's not like I've been single and on a "no talking to girls at all!" policy or anything like that - this idea to wait until university to get into a relationship was quite recent. In fact, my dating life has been quite "active" this school year, or at least active in terms of my school. In like, early October, one girl started talking to me, and I was completely oblivious to the whole matter until one of my other friends (who's friends with her) told me that she liked me. I didn't really like her back, and it took a toll on me when I had to tell her no when she confessed her feelings. I never knew that it actually hurt to REJECT someone. If you're wondering why I rejected her btw, it's just because I didn't see her as more than a friend, and I didn't really want to get involved with someone that I had no feelings for and only hurt them later on. About a month later, I started talking to a different girl, one that I'd found cute for a while in all honesty. She liked me back, and we hung out a few times, however after a while things didn't really seem to be going all that well, so we ended things on silent terms fairly mutually. In fact, currently I'm talking to another girl, however after getting to know her I just don't think that things are going to work out, as we don't really have a good connection. We don't even talk that much - just kinda in little bits here and there, and even still it's not really much of a conversation I just wanted to throw this in just in case anyone here presumes that I've started to think of women as a whole or anything like that, I really don't - on another note, I'm not trying to brag here, so please don't think that I am.
Right now I guess I'm just trying to focus on myself a bit. I've recently gotten super into the financial markets, wrote a couple books (discarded the first for later on in life, and am rewriting the second one rn as it was too cheesy the first time lol), trying to learn programming in order to get into algorithm trading, and am also (which I might get a lot of shit for lol) extremely interested in becoming a really good poker player. This is what I plan to focus on for the next few months (as well as school and final exams) until I go off to university.
And by the way, I still want to get into a relationship, I just don't think now is really the right time. There are of course things that I'm EXTREMELY insecure about, for example my height, as I'm 5'6 (I joke with myself that identify as 6' to make myself more confident, but I always come back to the negative thoughts), and also the fact that I'm still a virgin. For the virginity thing, I try to remind myself that one of my best friends who's a really good guy, and has pretty much everything that a girl could ask for, only lost his virginity when he was like, 20. But then again, much like the height thing, negative thoughts keep on creeping back.
And then now I guess there's another insecurity, or rather, a "I have no idea how to feel about this" problem. So what do you guys think? Is it weird that I want to wait until University to get into a relationship? Or should I try and get with someone now, for the rest of high school.
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2022.01.21 21:28 deadpanscience Are people really ok with this COVID situation?
Today there were damn near 25K covid cases with a 38.9% positivity rate. My kid's barnehage sent out rules from Oslo saying that unless the kid has a fever they can go to school, even if they are covid-19 positive.
Have people not heard of long covid in Norway or what? All for the economic growth of ***checks notes- half of what China grew in 2021 with a zero covid policy.
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2022.01.21 21:28 mikesshopz Came out to my girlfriend of a week as bi. Should I tell her I’ve cheated in a past relationship?
To start. I know this is a controversial title to begin with.
About 5 years ago, when I was a freshman in college I had my first girlfriend. I guess I didn’t realize the seriousness / what it meant to be in a relationship but I was still figuring out myself and coming to terms that I was bi. I came out to my roommate and he told me he was bi as well and I ended up cheating on her. I guess at the time I didn’t really realize what I was doing and after I felt like shit because not only did I want to confess to my gf the more I got feelings for her that I cheated, but I realized I had to tell her I was bi as well.
I eventually told her and we dated for a year after.
Fast forward to now, I just started dating a new girl , I just recently came out to her and she’s still processing it but handling it really well and wants to be with me etc. I’m not sure whether I should be honest with her what had happened in my previous relationship. I would never do that again, and I want to be honest with her. But I don’t want to add more stress to her at the same time right now.
Is this something is should be upfront about?
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I read a lot about men who claim to be feminists and are actually really shitty and just hiding behind that veil. I'm sure I have some blind spots that I'm unaware of, but don't want to be that shitty guy who gives himself a pass because I think I picked the right team (for lack of better phrasing).
I typically think the best thing I can do is just be a decent person and not mention feminism or anything related at all, but that feels ... like a step in the wrong direction too.
Does any of this make any sense to anybody? Any advice is welcome, I know it's a dumb amorphous question
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I'm currently level 24 in normal mode if that help with what guns are available for me to get. I would also like a gun loadout in terms of what type of elemental is good for the gun. I'll mostly be focusing on AR's and snipers.
Thanks in advance for the advice.
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He went to the counter and asked for a fine wine.
"We don't serve your kind here," replied the bartender.
"I'm a celery," the stick of celery said has he left.
The next day, the stick of celery returned and asked for an apple beer.
"As I said yesterday, we don't serve your kind here," said.
"I'm a celery," the stick of celery said once more.
The next day, the bartender went to the store. When he arrives the checkout lanes were not staffed.
"Hello? Is anyone they're?" called the bartender.
"We don't serve your kind here," said a voice.
The bartender looked over the counter and saw the stick of celery.
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